Groom Guidance
The days of grooms picking out their formalwear and groomsmen and simply showing up at the church at the appointed time are long gone. In fact, today’s grooms often take the lead in much of the wedding planning, and many of them wouldn’t come close to being categorized as "metrosexuals."
It is a marriage of two people, so why not both actively participate in the most important day of your lives!
Deciding to propose to your girlfriend is obviously the first step. Utilize your creativity in how you decide to propose and make the beginning steps of your new life a memorable one. Whether or not you discuss the type of engagement ring your soon-to-be intended would like best, make sure to put in the time and effort to research your purchase through reputable jewelers. If the ring you are proposing with is a family heirloom, you can worry about the fit and the sizing after you pop the question.
In addition to the engagement and wedding rings, there are traditional responsibilities belonging to the groom and his family that can include: choosing the best man and groomsmen, making the formalwear arrangements, planning and paying for the rehearsal dinner, and planning and paying for the honeymoon. However, today’s social situations have kind of thrown some of the rules out the window and who does what and pays for what is now totally subject to discussion. If you choose to handle all those responsibilities, you might want to get started with your planning as soon as possible.
Choosing your best man and groomsmen is one of the first tasks you can undertake. Make your decisions wisely , as these men can truly provide help and assistance both along the planning path and especially during the wedding festivities themselves. You’ll want to choose friends and relatives that are reliable and easy to get along with. Your best man shouldn’t be too shy, since he’ll have to make some toasts at the reception and maybe even at the rehearsal dinner. He’ll need to be able to step in wherever you need him to, whether it is aiding family members at the ceremony or sending wedding vendors in the right direction before the reception. Your best man and groomsmen should accompany you, if at all possible, to the formalwear store for measurements and rental arrangements.
Take the time to talk with your fiancée about your wedding day arrangements and honeymoon plans. You both may have very different ideas about the type of ceremony and reception you envision when you start the process, but through discussion and research, you may both come to an agreement on what kind of shape your special day will take. You’ll need to take family members’ ideas and financial availability into consideration when making your entire wedding planning decisions. They are decisions that can and should be shared.
Play a part in your wedding gift registry, as these items will grace your new home. Offer to run errands, attend the tasting with the caterer, mail deposits, write thank you notes, proof invitations, and just about any other items on the checklist that you can think of. It will help you start working as a team early on, which is truly what marriage is all about. Pitch in and learn how to be the perfect husband before you say, “I do!”